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I recently came across a blog post by Shaun Groves on the topic of God’s will for adoption entitled For The Few Or Almost Everyone?

You may remember Shaun as he joined us for a Sunday morning several years ago. He’s a singer/songwriter who is also a strong advocate for the fatherless and adoption.I just added his blog to our blogroll.

His post discusses God’s universal will, those commands that apply to everyone, the entire church versus God’s individual will, how He calls each of us uniquely. And the ultimate question Shaun asks is this: where does adoption fit? Is everyone called to adopt? I don’t believe so. Is everyone called to support those who adopt? Again, I don’t think so. (Shaun’s blog has a pretty big following as more than 50 people weighed in with their thoughts on the topic.)

But, is everyone called to live out James 1:27 is some form or fashion? I believe we are but would add that this can look dramatically different to each person.

Some will care for the single mother in their neighborhood, watching her children, bringing her meals, fixing her home. Others will go on a mission trip to provide care and hope to the fatherless in other countries while sharing the ultimate hope of the gospel. Others will financially support those who go. Others will bring a foster child into their home. Some will support someone in their small group who is adopting. And yet others WILL adopt.

To me, a member of Hill Country Bible Church, the question is this: are we, as a body of Christ-followers, characterized by our desire to broadly and individually support adoption and orphan care?

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Recently, my family and I traveled back to the Midwest to visit family and we had the opportunity to see some old friends I had grown up with. The last time I had seen these people was perhaps high school so I introduced them to my wife, my son and my daughter. As is so common, the person said, “Your son looks just like you.” And he does. He has a similar facial structure, similar hair color as when I was his age, a similar physical build.

Our daughter, on the other hand, doesn’t look like me. She doesn’t look like my wife. She doesn’t look like her cousins, her aunts or uncles, or her grandparents (see photo at right).

You see, our daughter is Chinese. My FamilyGod knit our family together before time began and of all the children available for adoption, He knew her future and brought her into our family while she was just a baby. While she’s now only six, she is already quite proud of her Chinese heritage but she has commented that her nose looks different that my wife’s nose. She very much has noticed that she looks different from us. And she immediately notices other Chinese people when we are out in the community.

I had another situation this week where this issue became apparent. My son recently purchased a Nintendo DSi gaming system. There is a feature on it where you can take a photo of two people and the system tells you if you’re a “relative” or not. That’s amazing, I thought. How does this system know that my son is my son, that my daughter is my daughter? Does it track back through court documents to see when our daughter was adopted into our family or the hospital records to see where my son was born into our family? I jest – it is simply comparing facial features to see how similar or dissimilar two people look.

As an adoptive parent of a child of a different nationality, it’s not fair for us to get bent out of shape when people harmlessly ask these things or our society generally views “sonship” or “daughtership” somehow connected to our looks or personalities. And yet, as an adoptive parent it really makes we wonder what impact these things have or will have on my daughter.

She wasn’t even within earshot of the statement but there will come a day when she will hear these statements. We have Caucasian friends who have adopted Caucasian children who very much look like their parents. When they hear the statement “your son looks just like their dad,” I wonder: is it easier for them to handle, more difficult, no different? We have Caucasian friends who have adopted children from Ethiopia and there’s no question their children are adopted. They invariably will face some of the same challenges as we do with our daughter.

So, I wonder — does our daughter look like her birth mother? Does she have brothers or sisters, aunts or uncles, even grandparents that would say that about her?

One thing I do know is that our daughter DOES look like her Heavenly Father. She does bear the image of Jesus Christ and is His creation. She was created to do great things in His name and I trust that as her stewards for this period of time, we’re bringing her up and equipping her to be her very best in whatever vocation she chooses.

What about you? What does your family look like? Have you experienced comments from people about your children? I certainly don’t have all the answers on how to handle these issues but together, through prayer, sharing of ideas and learning through each other’s experiences, I believe that we can all live up to God’s call to us to care of our children while in our homes.

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